Betrayal often fractures not only relational trust but an individual’s sense of self. This webinar equips professionals who work with betrayed spouses to understand and apply the Authentic Self framework as a tool for identity stabilization, emotional safety, and relational honesty. Drawing from the Honesty component of the Intimacy Pyramid, participants will explore the distinctions between the Authentic Self, Detached Self, and False Self, and how these internal states shape healing outcomes.

Attendees will gain practical insight into helping betrayed partners reconnect with their true identity, recognize adaptive versus maladaptive coping states, and foster greater internal alignment as a foundation for relational recovery.

Presentation Objectives: By the end of this session, professional participants will be able to:

• Define and distinguish between the Authentic Self, Detached Self, and False Self, and explain how each manifests in the aftermath of relational betrayal.
• Identify common internal and environmental triggers that move betrayed spouses away from their Authentic Self and into protective or destructive states.
• Apply the Authentic Self framework clinically to support identity clarity, emotional regulation, and increased relational honesty in betrayed partners.
• Assess the relational impact of each self-state and guide clients toward choices that foster peace, safety, and personal growth.
• Integrate self-awareness questions and reflective exercises into professional practice to help clients remain anchored in their Authentic Self over time.

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Joanna and Matthew Raabsmith are sought-after relationship experts, speakers, and authors who help high-achieving couples rebuild trust and create deeply connected relationships after betrayal. They co-lead The Raabsmith Team, a coaching collective offering transformative coaching, programs, and community support. They are co-authors of Building True Intimacy and creators of The Intimacy Pyramid™, a proven framework guiding couples from disconnection to safety and flourishing intimacy. Matthew is a PCC-certified coach specializing in addiction recovery and leadership, and Joanna is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Board Certified Coach trained in trauma-informed approaches.