When our life lies in pieces at our feet, what most of us want to know is how to put it back together. We want answers, and we want them now.
Do I leave him? Do I stay? Do I fight to get him back from the other woman? Do I forgive and forget?
Making decisions is never easy. Doing so at a chaotic turning point in our lives is almost impossible. Our minds are on overload. Our hearts are bruised. Our best judgment—you know, the part of us that once said this was a man we could trust with our hearts—is suspect. What do we do? Where do we turn? And how soon can we get out of this turmoil?
If we force ourselves to make decisions at times like this, we may find ourselves living with the consequences of poor judgment somewhere down the line. We may grow the most in times of pain and unrest, but we don’t do our best thinking then.
At those times, we can pause, take a deep breath. We can listen to others who have shared our problem. We can remind ourselves over and over that it is okay to live with uncertainty, to put one foot in front of the other even when we can’t see where that foot is going to land.
But we don’t do anything irrevocable. We don’t make a hasty deci