By Don Walker “A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short.”Andre Maurois
I love working with marriages. I see couples walk in at different states and stages in their marriages. Some come at a time when difficulty is just starting and after a few sessions, we correct their path and they leave on a new course. Others come in literally on the way to the divorce lawyer’s office. They are hoping that there can be some magic that will heal their relationship. Unfortunately, there is no magic, like many things in life good marriages take work.
Therein lies the rub. We live in a microwave society. We want to put things in the machine, wait a few minutes and presto it is done. The movies don’t glorify the time it takes to work through a family budget or coordinating the activities of a household full of children. Yet staying connected, even in these small ways, is the foundation to a fulfilling marriage.
Many couples ask, “How can we get/stay connected?” An effective exercise to improve your connection is to set aside thirty minutes a day to talk with your spouse. Each partner gets fifteen minutes to speak. While someone speaks the other person just listens, nods, and gives encouragement to the speaker. This time is not meant to solve problems but a time to connect. Take the time and listen to your partner this week. This small investment can pay great dividends in your relationship. Give it a try!
Via: Richard Blankenship